Survive the Valentines

Posted by Unordinary Customer on February 2, 2012 · 7 Comments 

With Valenties Day looming on the horizon there is a mixed buzz of emotion spreading accross the UK. While the very idea of Saint Nick is enough to send many people running for the hills, for others it fills their hearts with glee.

Step 1: Get Rid of the Stereotypes

We tend to think that loved up couples will be busy making excited plans for the big day and that singletons will sit at home wallowing in self pity and perhaps hosting a ‘boyfriend bonfire’ which involves burning photographs and any memoribilia of an ex boyfriend, and can actually be a real help in finally letting go of the past and moving on.

However, in the modern times this is not the case. Couples are more likely to despair over the thought of Valentines Day.

Finances can have a major strain on the relationship, with many feeling unjustfified in spending a ridiculous amount of money in one day, especially when there is birthdays and anniversaries throughout the year to fund for.

Those that are not settled in a relationship perhaps view the day on a much lighter note. There is no pressure to impress the other half, no going out of your way struggling to find the perfect gift and no disappointment when your partner has either forgotten or simply not realised the significance of making an effort. Waking up in the morning you may find slight butterflies in your stomach as you go downstairs to check the mail in the hope that a card or a bunch of flowers has been left by a secret admirer! And if there is nothing there? Then it doesn’t matter, you have no one to blame.

Women today are independent, equal and more increasingly just as unromantic as guys can be. Although, no matter how hard they protest, that every woman wants to feel spoilt and special from time to time. So, for men in a steady relationship who are stumped for ideas as to what to do, here are some simple pointers to ensure your special lady has a smile on her face on Valentines Day.

Step 2: Acknowledge The Day

Do make an effort to actually acknowledge that Valentnes is coming up, no matter how much you may hate it. If you do not wish to buy into all the commercial ‘tat’ just think this is an excuse for you to show your appreciation for your partner, to show that you do not take her for granted and do in fact still love/cherish/adore her.  Comprende?

Step 3: Make An Effort

This is not about spending lots of money or whisking her away for a night in Paris. It is about booking a table at her favourite restaurant, or perhaps arriving home from work early to prepare her favourite meal. Buy some flowers, please!
Step 4: The Lingering Kiss

Kiss her for longer than you usually would. Couples get accustomed to the quick peck “Hello” and “Goodbye,” and sometimes we need to stop and savour the moment. When you kiss her as she is about to pull away, don’t let her go, and watch those sparks fly!

There are also some fail safe ideas women should follow as well to avoid disappointment.

Step 5: Dont Expect Too Much

So you were expecting to be whisked away on a romantic trip for 2? You have your bags packed with frilly knickers, but the gifts have been given and it seems you are staying put! Don’t despair!

Appreciate little efforts that your man has gone too. You must remember romance is not always the opposite sexes strong point, and if he has made you breakfast in bed, or surprised you with a bunch of flowers then remember it is the thought that counts.

Step 6: Propose!

After all it is a leap year. The 29th February is the day that women all over the UK will be getting down on one knee to pop the question. But who can wait that long? Do it on the 14th  of February instead!

Written by Joanna May

Filed under Human Relationship · Tagged with dating, life, love, philosophy, relationships, sex, valentines