What it Feels Like For a Girl – 5 Reasons Why Being a Woman is More Difficult Than Being a Woman

Have you ever seriously considered changing your gender? Don’t get me wrong, I am proud to be a lady. But in every year there are crazy days when you wake up in despair, and just for a moment wish to step into the man’s shoes. Why? Because being a woman is bloody complicated! Of course, every woman is different. Some like their hair curly, others want it straight. But, I am confident that many of you will read the below list, and relate it to their own experience. So, where shall I start?

1. Hair

When you see a “pretty lady walking down the street”, you rarely become instantly aware of the amount of effort invested into that look. Well, unless you are a stylist, or beautician. ..

My kindergarten teacher used to drive me to tears, brushing my hair, and saying “Beauty requires sacrifice.” As I learned later on, it was one of the most valuable lessons in my entire female endeavours. And, indeed, 20 years later, I am still repeating the same mantra, waking up 40 minutes before my partner just to do my hair…

So, what does a woman need to do for her hair to look nice every morning?

1. Before washing – put a mask for hair not to look dry and damaged for at least one hour

2. Wash it: shampoo + conditioner

3. Blow it dry

4. Put protective spray to reduce the heat damage

5. Iron/straighten it

6. Style it

7. Go out, and pray that rain/wind doesn’t spoil it all before you get to work/school/Uni/date wherever you are setting your steps to.

What does a man need with his hair? Wash it, and dry it. Lovely! Let’s take you further down the list…

2. Shoes


A couple of weeks ago I came home from another “shopping therapy”, entered the living room with a happy shining in my eyes, and declared “Honey, I bought shoes!” He looked at me with a scornful smile, and replied, “Again? I think you have a problem…” “I have only one problem,” I said, “Not enough shoes.

Marilyn Monroesaid “Give a girl the right shoes and she can conquer the world.”  Did she mention anything in particular? Damn it! Considering a sad epilogue of her brilliant career, she didn’t quite manage to figure it out herself….

So, the eternal question tormenting women’s mind on a daily basis wouldn’t be “to be, or not to be?” (let’s leave it to men), but rather “Which shoes to wear?” or “Where to get money for the next pair?” and “Where do I fit all these shoes of mine?”

Shoes are a pain… We love it, but we also kind of hate it, because it just never comes right. The dilemma is: if it’s comfortable, it rarely looks pretty. If it is pretty, it rarely feels comfortable. It had to be of good quality, but it also has to be affordable; it needs to be original, but it also has to match the bag… When it breaks, and it happens very often, you have to pay to repair it, and OMG they charge a fortune for that! Sometimes, I don’t even bother to go to the repair shop, because I know that it will cost me less to buy a new pair…

There are so many things to take into consideration that our minds are literally boiling! And those crazy high hills that looks sexy, but hurt so much! Ouch! How much easier it would be to put on a pair of trainers/dress shoes/desert shoes/whatever It is, and just lay back…

3. Food

romantic date

Scarlett: Ashley told me he likes to see a girl with a healthy appetite! Mammy: What gentlemen says and what they thinks is two different things, and I ain’t noticed Mr. Ashley askin’ for to marry you. (Gone With the Wind)

greeting cardSo, my boyfriend and me started dating, and instantly fell in love with each other. But, during one of the sweet romantic dinners, when I looked at the menu, he made a shocking request, “Could you please order something else than a salad?” “What’s wrong with a salad?” I asked. He looked at me with hesitation “It’s just that… it is not real food. Can you honestly get full with it? Why don’t you order something normal, like a burger?” “I don’t even like burgers,” I said. And then he went on sulking, “Please, this is so embarrassing for me.  You are like this stereotypical Sex-in-the-City-style women who get obsessed with weight, blah-blah-blah” It took me a while to process it, and it took me even longer to learn how to eat “normal food” without growing extra fat.

How is it possible that a man is able to consume massive amounts of junk food and still not be a gram heavier, while every single cheesecake that goes into a lady mouth needs to be compensated with an hour of cardio? I am not exaggerating here. It’s a well-known fact that men need more calories than women. According to UK Department of Health daily calorie intake for an average woman is 1940 calories, and 2550 for a man. This is more than a bar of chocolate. But, why such a difference? Men do not need to hunt anymore. In fact, many of them are now involved in a quite a sedentary lifestyle. And, still, I see lots of skinny guys eating full meals, and drinking protein shakes, struggling to GAIN weight!

What is even more discouraging is that if you actually ate like them, they would never even look in your direction… There is no perfect solution here, and unless you don’t really care about satisfying someone’s complex taste, you will find yourself mastering the art of balancing on the edge between overeating and under exercising.

5. Work

Imagine you are a manager of a small company, conducting an interview for a job. Two people with an equal set of skills and experience apply – a man and a woman. You interview them, and it seems they are just the same. You like both of them. Whom would you hire?

It might not come as a surprise that the majority of people in these circumstances would prefer a man over a woman. A man doesn’t need to take a maternity leave, or leave work early/work from home to care for them. Subconsciously, we consider men to be more powerful, stern, and capable of dealing with stress and managing people.

Let’s say you’re a woman, and you get the job. But, the troubles may continue. You can work for a man, and there is always a risk he will either not consider you seriously, because you don’t possess a magical quality of a pair of balls, or will try to hit on you. Either way, the chance for promotion is dim. Working for a woman is a double-edged sword. If you are younger, she might be jealous. If you are older, she might be insecure about her own position, and afraid you will try to overthrow her. Of course, not everybody is like that. But, there is always a risk. Being a man at work is so much easier. Nobody is trying to check out your ass, and actually listen to what you’ve got to say.

4. Lust


“Before marriage, a girl has to make love to a man to hold him. After marriage, she has to hold him to make love to him.” (Marilyn Monroe)

The last, but not the least point in my list, which will make a perfect conclusion for major troubles a woman might face in her life, is by all means “S” word. If a man has a one night stand or multiple meaningless intercourses – he is a macho, a Casanova, or a “wonderman”.  If a woman attempts to do the same, she will be immediately labelled as a slut. Where is the justice here? We declare ourselves free from gender prejudices, and at the same time preserve subconscious clichés on how people should behave.

Unless a woman can keep her intercourses secret, or reserve the image of a femme fatal, she will be forced to conform to the invisible standards imposed by the society.

I’ll say no more. The End..



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One Response to “What it Feels Like For a Girl – 5 Reasons Why Being a Woman is More Difficult Than Being a Woman”
  1. vilks12 says:

    A week ago we have discussed the same subject with my friends Jugine and his wife, Larisa. Larisa claimed exactly the opposite – being a women is more easier then being a man. What do you think ? Can you write any article to agree with this ? 🙂

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